DurAnorak (duranorak) wrote,

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"I love you."

OK. I've been thinking about this for too long. I don't get it. I just don't get it.
If I love somebody, for a start I want to tell them. The only reason I wouldn't is if I think the consequences of telling them would be harmful to me - and you know even that doesn't always stop me...heh. If it's someone who isn't going to mind, I always tell them, and because I love so many people, I certainly don't expect to hear it back.
When I was talking about Chris to one of my friends last term, she was absolutely stunned to hear that he'd told me he loved me. I saw nothing odd in it - particularly since I'd told him first, but still...
I've also recently been told by two friends that they find it difficult to tell their boyfriends that they love them.
And I don't understand it. What's so hard about saying "I love you"? Or why do I find it so easy? Is it because I have a clear and definite distinction between "I love you" and "I'm in love with you", which I rarely say? Is it a girl thing, do we find it easier, and if so *why*? Are people wary about saying "I love you" because they don't think they'll hear it back? To me that seems extraordinary, but I actually recently had someone *apologise* to me for not being able to return an "I love you". ~s~ I don't understand it at all. I mean, I can see that not everybody is comfortable with saying it to just anyone, of course, but when it's someone with whom you're in a relationship...?
Can anyone offer any thoughts?


By the way, if anyone notices anything familiar in this, please leave it as nameless as I've put it; there's a reason I've not named anyone. Except for Chris, of course - hope you don't mind, love. ~s~

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